My D/s Rules are there for a reason, and they are not up for debate once they are set!
A friendly reminder from Goddess Bella Donna for those who wish to belong to Me!
Some boys are very good in general, but once in a while they feel the urge to test the Rules I have set for them just to see if they can get away with stretching or breaking them. Of course then it becomes necessary for Me to discipline them for that foolishness to show them that Goddess is more then prepared to carry out the control she has over them and to reinforce her rules. Broken Rules come with consequences, no matter how good you usually are! So if you can’t handle the disciplinary actions or if necessary punishments, don’t test my resolve!
Other boys, those who don’t respect my Rules pretty much from the start, will always end up being weeded out rather quickly or don’t even make it to my feet, and then wonder why they get blocked or dismissed rather quickly. I have no interest in having to chase subs down and constantly deal with unnecessary annoyances, just because the person in question looks at this as a silly little Game he can just play around in when it suits him or her. Yes, that goes for you sissy gurls as well.
Rules are part of every D/s relationship and interaction, regardless if that is in real time with you in smacking distance from me when you act out, or if that is online or long distance as it may be. Those are the structure that help you as the submissive to know what I will put up with and what will land you in hot water in a hurry. They are there to give you a foundation that helps you to kneel on properly laid ground, without wondering if I will be lenient or hard nosed on certain things. Those are there for your safety as well, and to help you to remain in your sub place even when we are not interacting at that particular moment. Rules are there for a reason, and they are not up for debate once they are set by Me!
A lot of you boys complain that most Mistresses don’t take the time to get to know you first before making demands on you and expect some type of service from you, be that actual mundane service in real time, or financial service online since you are unable to actually do any work that would benefit Me in some way and make My life easier. We been over that a million ways from Sundown! I am honestly bored to tears with having to explain it over and over again, so I am simply skipping that part. By now you should know it by heart unless you have a mental issue that doesn’t allow you to apply even the simplest of logic. In that case I am not interested in you anyways and you can now move on to someone else Have a nice life and good luck!
I have simple Rules as My Core Rules and then each Seeker / Submissive has additional Rules that are given to them depending on what our Sessions and D/s Relationship entails. How close to TPE we have agreed upon, and which Fetishes and Kinks are included in the mix. Some require additional safety Rules while others might simply need additional behavior rules to help the submissive to do their utmost best.
Even so I am a FinDomme, that is not all I am! I am a FemDom as well and I have spoken about that many times. Matter of fact I am pretty much always a FemDom first and a FinDomme second. For Me it is very much about the control I hold over those who belong to Me and the obedience I expect from them. I deeply enjoy and yes become aroused both mentally and at times physically, when I am seeing your obedience to My orders and wishes, without hesitation and without trying to find a way around them.
I am well known for downgrading a sub to a mere Fetish Player quickly when they show Me that constant and loyal obedience is not something they are capable off. In that case it becomes all about the Money for Me since they are incapable to feed My needs and desires any other way. At that point the fees I charge to allow you to avail yourself of My Professional Domination and Fetish Services go up and now it is purely on a pay to play and / or contact base. If you want the financial part of your Service to be secondary to the Control I hold over you and be permitted to have interactions with Me outside of just play time and actually have a D/s Relationship with Me where the main focus is not on the payments and tributes, but on U/us as a D/s “Couple” and your continued sub conditioning, then you have to prove to Me and continue to prove to Me that you are worthy of that. My subs make weekly tributes while my Fetish Clients pay per play and chat interaction. Which do you want to be? Which are you worthy of being?
Keep this in mind boys and gurls, there has to be something in it for Me too or why would I bother with you at all.
When you wish to approach Me either for a Professional Domination or Fetish Session or to ask if I am still accepting new submissives for long term and long distance (online) servitude then you will go by My basic first Contact Rules. They are simple and extremely easy to follow, yet so many of you boys and sissies still manage to screw them up. What you forget is that those are a first step in a weeding out the unworthy of My attention boys as well and focusing my time on those who know and are eager to please Me from the start.
Let Me show you what they are and read them carefully:
- Address Me correctly and use proper Manners! Correct address towards Me is Ma’am, Miz Bella Donna, or Goddess Bella Donna. It’s not Mistress or Goddess, you have not been given the privilege to address Me as that yet since you do NOT belong to Me at this point! That is for My subs and My regular Clients who have been with Me for a lengthy period of time already. They earned that privilege.
- Introduce yourself to Me properly, that includes your first name, your age, and why you are approaching Me. I don’t want to hear silliness like you calling yourself a dog, an it, a pathetic loser, a worm, or even a submissive man here. That is to be determined by Me. You can tell Me you’d like to be my male sub or my sissy sub, but that is as far as it should classify at that point.
- Wait for Me to respond to you and ask you, before typing out a novel of your desires and a wishlist of what you want from Me. That is like whipping out your dick to a stranger whom you don’t even know yet! It’s disrespectful and shows Me that you do not have the necessary respect and maturity to interact with a Lady like myself! A little polite introduction and casual chit chat goes a long way boys and gurls.
- You are about to take up My personal Time Be prepared to show your sincerity and respect to Me with a show of sincerity. (Aka yes a Tribute). Unless you are requesting a Professional Session in which case I will tell you how much I require as a payment (not up for debate), I usually tell you to send Me a tribute at some point in the conversation without giving you an amount. Do NOT insult Me with the amount you give to Me! (I long since passed the under $50 range.)
- Expect Me to ask you Questions and be prepared to give Me HONEST, POLITE and PROMPT answers. I am not in the habit of waiting 10 minutes for an answer. I have better things to do then to be put on “hold” by someone who isn’t of value to Me yet!
- Remember I am a human being too and not some weird Fetish Machine. You will be asked about your hard limits by Me and I will give you Mine as well. “No limit morons” will be blocked instantly. I am not dealing with idiots. It is ok so tell Me you don’t know what your limits are yet, but it is not ok to say – I have no limits!
- If I tell you I am not interested or that your time is up with Me, respect that and don’t even think of becoming rude. I won’t even ask you for a tribute until I have determined if you are someone I wish to interact with or not I have been long enough around to be able to do that within the first 3 to 10 minutes.
- Speak / Type in English and full sentences. I am not fluid in text speak and I have no intentions in learning it either. You are holding a conversation with Me and you wouldn’t use text speak in a face to face conversation with Me either.
- You only get one chance with Me. If I decide to go ahead and give you the session in which case you will be required to make the payment within 5 minutes, or feel that you have potential as a sub for Me, don’t screw it up. I am not desperate, I will block you if you are too stupid to take care of a good thing when it is given to you. There may be 1000’s of women out there claiming BDSM as their enjoyment, but there are just if not more subs who are seeking someone to take them on and condition them. It’s a two way street, and there is only one of Me!
All pretty simple and common sense really, but as I said before 90% of guys and sissies still manage to screw it up, Don’t be one of them! Stand out in a positive way to Me from the start!
The next one that always baffles Me is that you guys can’t get the where to contact Me through your heads.
Where to contact Me Rules!
Kinketalk: https://www.kinkemag.com/kinketalk (Make a prepaid appointment with Me for Phone Chat)
I DO NOT accept requests via DM on Twitter or Facebook period. My Twitter DM is used for fellow Ladies and subs with whom I am already interacting with if I so choose!
Every part of our Interactions have progressive Rules:
Before you even have to worry about the Rules for a Session or a potential D/s Relationship you have to actually make it past those above first! Why should I bother to list all the others out if you can’t even show Me that you follow those first? It always goes that way. It’s one simple step at a time!
However if you managed and I have given you orders and a set of simple starter core Rules, then I expect them to be followed and carried out! Fail to do so and we are done! Breaking My Rules has consequences. What they are always depends on how far you got already with Me.
What may happen if you break the rules?
The other day I had a boy requesting the honor of being My online sub. I spend 2 hours talking to him in order to get to know him, his fetishes, his background etc a little. He was given a few simple orders and told to turn in the prove that he had obeyed the following day and to check in with Me. I never heard back from him. Needless to say, he no longer is eligible for further attention from Me.
Another boy, with whom I have had an ongoing Training Relationship, was placed under a faggot restriction for 2 Weeks because he was going bareback again without taking any type of safety precautions. Plus since he is HIV positive (not Aids yet) he is supposed to tell his potential lovers honestly and ahead of time that he carries the Virus. I was informed that he broke the Rules given by Me. Sadly since he feels it necessary to endanger other people he is now dismissed. I am unable in good consciousness to remain being part of this boy”s life and behavior. It’s against my standards and yes against the law as well to a point
A third boy is currently on ignore until he pays off a punishment fine to Me of $500 for stepping out of line for the 3rd time. He has 7 days to pay it or he will be dismissed. His big mouth and habit of back talking when he doesn’t like something, has been an ongoing issue and I have grown tired o it now. I may be patient, but I am still the One in charge. I am not one bit amused by lippy subs!
The reality is:
When you come to a Domina it is to give up control and to be dominated. To have the burden of decision making taken out of your hand by HER! If you are not willing to have that happen, or loyal obedience is a problem for you, it is simply a waste of time and energy for both sides. My time and energy is valuable to Me, and it should be to you as well. May I suggest you take up knitting instead!
Until next time:
Goddess Bella Donna